Interesting discussion over tradition between the Korean and the Korean Mother. Well, it would have been interesting if it did not involve hours of screaming into the phone.
The Korean was planning to have the traditional portion of the wedding (폐백 or pyebaek) in Korea after the wedding in New York, because the ceremony is for the 시댁 (si-daek, i.e. the groom's family) to welcome the bride. For the Korean, the proper 시댁 is in Korea, where heads of his extended family -- namely, the Korean Grandmother and the Korean Uncle (큰아버지) -- are located. For the Korean Mother (who recently morphed into Koreanmomzilla,) the proper 시댁 is wherever the Korean Mother and the Korean Father are located, which means 폐백 has to be a part of the New York wedding.
An epic battle between Ultraman and Koreanmomzilla just happened, which sort of looked like this...
... but just imagine the two duking it out on the phone instead of breathing fires and shooting laser beams.
But in the end, the noble Ultraman was defeated, and Koreanmomzilla stomped on his cold dead body. Now the Korean has to go look for a separate room in the reception space for the goddamn 폐백. Losing never feels good, even if it's losing to your mom.
What do you think is the proper result?
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