Bringing Home the Wrong Race [New York Times]Once seated, I began to dissect my burrito, looking to expel anything that might singe my half-Irish, half-Italian and wholly American palate. While running my fork through the black beans, I asked my Korean-American suitor, “Do you intend to leave me for an Asian girl someday?”
Seung paused for just a moment too long.
As my smile began to wane, he finally replied, “I’m supposed to marry a Korean girl.”
My mind raced: What? Do you have another girlfriend? And was that her friend outside?
Seung added, “My parents have been clear about this my entire life.”
I told him that as a 35-year-old woman who had already made my way in the world, I didn’t need his parents to accept me. They lived far away, we were not financially dependent on them, and I could be respectful to them no matter what, because I respected the man they’d made.
Seung then smiled and said, “That’s good to know because I have a plan.”
He explained that, weeks before, he had begun a campaign to make his parents like, accept or at least not hate me, and to not disown him. This campaign included systematic leaks of information to his parents by family members who were sympathetic to his affection for someone outside of their race.
“Terrific strategy, honey,” I said, trying to hide how unsettled I felt.
Monday, June 06, 2011
Very nice New York Times article about interracial dating featuring a Korean American man, his parents, and Diane Farr, the star of Numb3rs on CBS. A sample: