tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post6665887165903011782..comments2024-03-18T07:07:53.346-04:00Comments on Ask a Korean!: Meet the KoreansT.K. (Ask a Korean!)http://www.blogger.com/profile/07663422474464557214noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-16653004763116839102016-03-01T18:40:19.502-05:002016-03-01T18:40:19.502-05:00I totally understand you Michael Schumagger...too ...I totally understand you Michael Schumagger...too many rules and obligations but no reciprocity on the Korean side due to differences. I vote for MUTUALl respect for parents of the one you are married with but none of the extremes. Balance and mutual respect should be quintessencial in every couple especial in multi cultural couples, as a sine qua non condition. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09463927377811582551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-7046023789580004722015-12-22T17:40:23.267-05:002015-12-22T17:40:23.267-05:00Why does koreans don't date SINGLE MOMS or the...Why does koreans don't date SINGLE MOMS or they will dishonor their sonAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02214569665023781212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-24553742554799088012015-09-26T23:33:48.370-04:002015-09-26T23:33:48.370-04:00They also don't like their son/ daughter DATI...They also don't like their son/ daughter DATING SOMEONE WITH A KID Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02214569665023781212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-63101980709669370692014-04-07T18:50:20.871-04:002014-04-07T18:50:20.871-04:00Hi nandini why do you want to marry a Korean when ...Hi nandini why do you want to marry a Korean when there are many kind hearted, Broadminded and cultured. Who respect spouse like a mother and Child. Why cant you give a thought of getting married to a Tamil guy who can make you feel like a queen of the world. Korean or Indian who ever you may marry .... the future depends on wat you give and you will get it back.... All the best for your partner search ...... this is by one of your fan following ---- your dad knows me ..... BalaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17023993146369642620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-45840151868507095442014-01-01T03:08:07.950-05:002014-01-01T03:08:07.950-05:00I'm sorry. Although, you are probably better o...I'm sorry. Although, you are probably better off without him. Forget his family, he was not there to defend you. In the end. many of us are forced to either 'keep the peace' or follow our hearts. Sometimes the easier route is not the one that makes us happy, but it does make our families quieter. Again, I'm truely sorry for your experience. If it means anything, I don't think you could have done anything more and you certainly sounded like you handled yourself with class.nowkeghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04816479346891444091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-63311786691916329202013-02-03T01:07:44.874-05:002013-02-03T01:07:44.874-05:00I am an Indian girl interestedin Korean language a...I am an Indian girl interestedin Korean language and culture. I really wish to marry a korean guy. I have got a few Korean friends who are neither racists nor sexists.. but everywhere i see the words Koreans are racists and that scares me out.. why won't they accept someone who really respects and loves their culture and their way of living. i am confused! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01827589605154200553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-58103126067610146242013-01-24T23:07:44.634-05:002013-01-24T23:07:44.634-05:00You're spot on! Korean way of life seems quite...You're spot on! Korean way of life seems quite inhibited. Slavery is a good word for it!Jazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03906010837619507228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-53586064631644540982013-01-17T17:18:47.430-05:002013-01-17T17:18:47.430-05:00that's awesome! If you don't mind my askin...that's awesome! If you don't mind my asking, did you meet in Canada, or in South Korea?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-80656064764876535352013-01-10T20:27:07.227-05:002013-01-10T20:27:07.227-05:00that is so true that is so true Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15072423203115352508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-48941622691145001512013-01-09T20:41:37.926-05:002013-01-09T20:41:37.926-05:00let me tell u something im married to a korean guy...let me tell u something im married to a korean guy when i first met his parents he they did not approve of it some of the parents are so mean his grandmother was the only one who approved of it im not trying to be mean or anything but the trick is to find a korean guy that parents have passed away or really nice cause if u like the wrong guy then your life will be messed up forever some of the parents are a B.I.T.C.H<br /><br />~EryanaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15072423203115352508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-51508447022770684142012-12-04T11:10:18.844-05:002012-12-04T11:10:18.844-05:00LOL I´d rather keep single until I die before I ma...LOL I´d rather keep single until I die before I marry a korean and family included,this sounds like a real nightmare. I eat everytime I want when I want, before anyone I want, and kiss anyone I want, in front anyone I want, well I guess they call this freedom, the Korean way is a kind of slavery, giving away your will, not for me.dogyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07036754402097727468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-63558071820506561602012-09-30T11:12:40.720-04:002012-09-30T11:12:40.720-04:00I may try some of these with my non korean in laws...I may try some of these with my non korean in laws who hate me, who knows maybe it will work on them too.<br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08850135787995023899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-20007063257030836612012-09-12T12:23:17.385-04:002012-09-12T12:23:17.385-04:00Jesus Christ. You might as well just give yoursel...Jesus Christ. You might as well just give yourself up entirely. padaajoshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05358574969359308337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-49584650716678688552012-09-12T12:21:12.262-04:002012-09-12T12:21:12.262-04:00You bow and kiss their feet and say all sorts of s...You bow and kiss their feet and say all sorts of shit that has absolutely no meaning. Be sure to smile. padaajoshihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05358574969359308337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-4470966792748727872012-08-18T11:31:39.032-04:002012-08-18T11:31:39.032-04:00I'm a whitey (girl) who married a Korean guy, ...I'm a whitey (girl) who married a Korean guy, though he thinks of himself as mostly Canadian. His parents were very accepting (as he'd never date a Korean girl to begin with) though the language barrier made it a little difficult at first but their english is still good enough to have conversation. Since I took a course in Korean culture at univerisity I've begun to really dive into experiencing it and LOVING it and I've noticed the joy on both his parent's faces when they found out I was trying to learn Korean. I would say no matter how Canadian or non-Korean your Korean love interest claims to be take interest in their culture and their parents are bound to accept you (and your significant other may also begin to realize the importance of their own culture in their own lives as well). It's part of who they are! Plus learning a new language is super cool. Although I still struggle with kimchi, I want to love it so I can be "cool" amongst Koreans haha!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06550965940502735012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-75116785767921521382012-01-26T20:21:13.531-05:002012-01-26T20:21:13.531-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.SKyzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07513885238016992370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-52330128374683379382012-01-26T20:19:48.988-05:002012-01-26T20:19:48.988-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.SKyzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07513885238016992370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-81639011741233237812012-01-25T02:34:21.188-05:002012-01-25T02:34:21.188-05:00I'm European and I'm in a relationship wit...I'm European and I'm in a relationship with my Korean boyfriend for a few years now. He still haven't introduced me to his family, so I can't know exactly from personal experience, but.... Korean or not, there is something humane, some common sense as a human being that will make your gestures right. Something that all people in the world know simply because we're all humans.<br />Simply, if you care for others, you will naturally not appear as a bad person. And as for the cultural customs, you can always ask your boyfriend / girlfriend. Because they know their own parents a lot better than The Korean does.Dac X Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15293064862842657519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-54406812970485186382012-01-20T12:06:29.800-05:002012-01-20T12:06:29.800-05:00I am speaking as a white male who has studied Kore...I am speaking as a white male who has studied Korean in depth and lived in Seoul for over 2 years. It is sad to say but most of what people have said here is true. (Yes the younger generation is better than the older generation in these matters. However when it comes down to it Korean is a Homogeneous society. Koreans are very proud of their blood lines and nationality. As a foreigner you will always be seen as just a foreigner. Even if you speak the language. However when you try to break into society you will be at the mercy of one of the most passive aggressive cultures in the world. I am not talking about commuting to your hagwon and ordering gogi at your local restaurant. I am talking about raising a family, working for a Korean company and truly trying to integrate). I am currently dating a girl who was told hold much she was worth in monetary figures by her father. That by being seen with me (even though I am not just another English teacher) brings her worth down. That I would muddle the family blood line. That she is ruined because she loves me and not a Korean man. That is the father. Now the mother on the other hand, who as usual in Korean society has a terrible relationship with her in-laws loves me. I make for an easier family life for her daughter. Her brother is is 28 and one of the most genuine good people I have ever met. So i do take issue with the general personification of Korea being a welcoming place for all. However there are good and bad people everywhere this is true. But good luck fining a Korean girl to marry whose family doesn't bat an eye at you being, black, white, or darker skinned Asian.Henceforthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16275121655100059853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-62531874472291096402011-11-27T22:20:49.352-05:002011-11-27T22:20:49.352-05:00Hmmm... I think people are exaggerating here.
Sur...Hmmm... I think people are exaggerating here. <br />Sure, you can come across the really racist Koreans who absolutely despise the idea of their korean child marrying a non korean. But honestly, to say that 70% of koreans are racist is a gross exaggeration. <br />That may have been true in the 1980s or in the stone age, but Koreans nowadays are very very open. I recently went to Seoul, and I stayed with a Korean family. I am chinese, but they seemed intrigued by my culture and didn't seem too bothered if I did not exactly follow korean protocol. Furthermore, my american cousin married a korean man, and she most DEFINITELY did not have to play the role of a "weak, submissive wife." In fact, it was the contrary.<br /><br />I urge readers, (and the writer) to not make assumptions that almost all koreans behave this way. In truth, it is very upsetting for me to read this because most of them aren't even true. Yes, you should follow basic protocol like bowing. Thats just respect, it's an asian culture thing. But please, do not generalize korean behaviour.<br /><br />That's just weird.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-30070540688080563032011-07-14T23:52:52.209-04:002011-07-14T23:52:52.209-04:00Woah that's a really depressing story. Althoug...Woah that's a really depressing story. Although not all Korean family's are like that, many older generations can be strict. (And also quite religious) but then again, any extreme Christian family from anywhere in the world can act similarly if their child is wanting to date someone from a different faith. Just one of many reasons I'm an atheist.puppethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16917922079680394112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-12633508903949173432011-04-29T15:17:26.833-04:002011-04-29T15:17:26.833-04:00Did any of the advice you gave worked? I tried it ...Did any of the advice you gave worked? I tried it on my end and all I can say is they are racist. <br /><br />I was the first girl that my ex dated he thought about marriage, family, house, kids, kids names and our difference in religion and we (just him and I) thought of how much religion would impact our life and kids. We talked about his family and he told me his family preferred him with Korean but maybe they would support him in the end if he chose non since he never dated a korean girl because he was not attracted to them. My folks didn't care as long as I'm happy. They tried to push their religious views but I buffed them and they respected my opinion and didn't push anymore. <br />Once his parents found out about me, his mom started crying....his mom and dad fought on the phone, his sister would tell him I was changing him without his knowledge, then the family meetings and interventions started, to books on Christianity and they would say 'they support him and me together' but the religion was too much. I spent time on our phone chats (we were long distance for 6 months) trying to cool him down form their chats so he could concentrate on his job and exams (something they were not considerate for since these talks were putting his scores and potentially a good job at a good city at risk). The stress of his family ganging up against him and his friends telling him relationships should be easy and if there is no support from the early stages its going to go down hill...he broke it off. He said if we lived in a bubble, we were perfect even with our difference but outside that...we just were too different. I tried to bring to his attention his family did not like me because I'm not korean but he wouldn't see it. They convinced him that it was not the fact of my race, but my religion and my wanting the kids to be the same religion as myself. I told him I would support HIS decision if he wanted to kids to go to bible classes, church, etc b/c I see my friends who do this and it works for them. But he went from knowing what he wanted in religion and kids, to being completely confused to not knowing (in 6 months) and then not ready for marriage and it was too rushed. He is in his 30's...all his friends are married or engaged. His brothers got married in their late 20's, his sister got married in her mid 20's to a guy in his late 20's.<br />I feel like I wasted my time and life on him and though I still love him, I hate him and his family....they destroyed every trust I have in him, men, their family, and worse...my instincts.Serafinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05563927583761188699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-63123541488508337252010-04-21T16:01:41.662-04:002010-04-21T16:01:41.662-04:00어머니 is mother.
계모 is stepmother.
시어머니 is mother-i...어머니 is mother.<br />계모 is stepmother. <br />시어머니 is mother-in-law.<br /><br />아버지 is father.<br />새아버지, 의붓아버지, 계부 is stepfather.<br />장인[시아버지], 양부 is father-in-law.AlohaHandshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03343900353165599904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-25503294848415235692009-12-14T17:24:06.555-05:002009-12-14T17:24:06.555-05:00If you don't call their parents by their names...If you don't call their parents by their names, what do you call them then?mooguhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02631217557121625015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-91385061801869524812009-11-13T12:01:41.498-05:002009-11-13T12:01:41.498-05:00to be honest i son't know anything about korea...to be honest i son't know anything about koreans other than what i see in those drama's but what you just said makes me think they're a bit scaryNoufhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05838952418662502424noreply@blogger.com