tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post1196326798230811986..comments2024-03-26T03:31:06.199-04:00Comments on Ask a Korean!: Who Takes the Wedding Money Gifts?T.K. (Ask a Korean!)http://www.blogger.com/profile/07663422474464557214noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-74005287530883866912012-04-10T12:28:36.291-04:002012-04-10T12:28:36.291-04:00I love that you quoted 애정남 on this. I love that sh...I love that you quoted 애정남 on this. I love that show. (Technically just a corner of a show.)Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11907066058792175383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-10711701639590369452012-04-10T12:26:41.500-04:002012-04-10T12:26:41.500-04:00I agree, the safest way is to ask another coworker...I agree, the safest way is to ask another coworker. I think the standard for wedding gift varies just like it does for any regular gift-giving. (e.g. Maybe Gravel's coworkers are slightly nicer, better-paid, and/or more well-off than the average people that 애정남 below is referring to? Haha... Just a speculation. But maybe this applies to Ashley's workplace too.)<br /><br />I'd say ditch the "system" or the "rule" or whatever. Other than the conventional minimum, give as much as you feel compelled to / obliged to give as a wedding 'gift' to this person... But if you want to avoid feeling too stingy or too generous, ask a close coworker for sure.Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11907066058792175383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-63477963245146224012012-04-05T13:05:18.855-04:002012-04-05T13:05:18.855-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-85525941199420580902012-04-05T11:07:25.299-04:002012-04-05T11:07:25.299-04:00Please stay with the topic of the OP. If you want ...Please stay with the topic of the OP. If you want to discuss the shooting, there is a post for that. Thanks.T.K. (Ask a Korean!)https://www.blogger.com/profile/07663422474464557214noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-76396675407356132012012-04-05T10:13:06.458-04:002012-04-05T10:13:06.458-04:00If that's true, I'm guessing it's cult...If that's true, I'm guessing it's cultural.. Korean kids have a way higher rate of autism than the US. I'm not sure you can draw great conclusions from either fact. Or, I suppose, you could say one culture goes one way with its mental illness, the other culture the opposite way.<br /><br />And, if you're seeing the numbers of students you say, you're not seeing that many from any particular country? Over 100 but spread out over 64 nations?Charles Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489538189139910055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-16894170944529478002012-04-05T06:42:09.139-04:002012-04-05T06:42:09.139-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-81307507973489982422012-04-04T22:15:42.218-04:002012-04-04T22:15:42.218-04:00How much to give was explained by 애정남
http://www....How much to give was explained by 애정남<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bk7P5-RtZrgnayreelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00005775348313278873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-44828881651109175142012-04-04T20:11:11.987-04:002012-04-04T20:11:11.987-04:00I was close? HAHAHA!I was close? HAHAHA!Gravelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00762964244520399960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-57552572646936331692012-04-04T13:28:07.881-04:002012-04-04T13:28:07.881-04:00I had a relative give me this run-down (worked for...I had a relative give me this run-down (worked for me, but not set in stone, of course and might be different for other peeps):<br />50k krw - acquaintance <br />100k krw - co-worker<br />150k krw - close friend or important colleague boss?)<br />200k krw and up (or whatever you can afford) - close family memberMadlocoBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738043603224576135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-62664830744841185832012-04-04T10:05:49.164-04:002012-04-04T10:05:49.164-04:00I would say 30,000 from two is not enough. I'...I would say 30,000 from two is not enough. I'd aim for 50,000 at minimum, and probably more like 100,000, for a coworker, but maybe my workplace was unusual. Can you check in with a trusted Korean coworker that will give you a straight scoop?Gravelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00762964244520399960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-15945873841391186212012-04-04T06:49:18.173-04:002012-04-04T06:49:18.173-04:00I've heard 30,000 won as well. It's not a...I've heard 30,000 won as well. It's not a close acquaintance. Do you think 30,000 is enough from two people?Ashley 애슐리https://www.blogger.com/profile/01180701120259706625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-26876802319776477462012-04-04T00:25:28.701-04:002012-04-04T00:25:28.701-04:00Ashley,
The short answer to your question is: at ...Ashley,<br /><br />The short answer to your question is: at least 30,000 won.<br /><br />I've heard that's the generally accepted standard, and depending on the nature of your relationship with that person (e.g. how close of a friend you are) you would add more.<br /><br />If he or she is a mere acquaintance, I'd say 30,000... but if a friend (and/or if you're feeling generous), perhaps around 50,000?Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11907066058792175383noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-90021606476118978672012-04-03T22:35:21.823-04:002012-04-03T22:35:21.823-04:00How much money is customary to give for a wedding?...How much money is customary to give for a wedding? I have a Korean coworker's wedding later this month. I am going with a date if that matters.Ashley 애슐리https://www.blogger.com/profile/01180701120259706625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-23677675011839625432012-04-03T20:37:16.672-04:002012-04-03T20:37:16.672-04:00Vb, less on the hysterics would be more helpful an...Vb, less on the hysterics would be more helpful and would make you sound a wee more credible.<br />Statements like "great majority of Americans are neurologically miswired and have ADD and ADHD" make your stream on consciousness-like proclamations levitate on the same level with "most foreigners are terrorists and live in huts" gems, espoused by the same rednecks you allegedly bemoan.<br />Plus, I seriously doubt you posess a degree in Psychiatry to diagnose any mental disorders...<br />For the sake of the thread, let's concentrate on the wedding gifts topic here.<br />At my brother-in-law's wedding, we also had money envelopes, but the tradition was a bit Americanized: the money went to the couple, as they were the ones footing the wedding bill. Funny thing, we used the same envelopes as on TK's picture.MadlocoBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738043603224576135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-72773559245769161202012-04-03T16:07:21.713-04:002012-04-03T16:07:21.713-04:00I wonder who can easily afford to buy a house like...I wonder who can easily afford to buy a house like that these days. Just wish your son doesn't work in Seoul!Gouliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15907033952717878217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-85219373250662501992012-04-03T14:04:35.779-04:002012-04-03T14:04:35.779-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-59226631190304683312012-04-03T01:10:45.796-04:002012-04-03T01:10:45.796-04:00It really depends a lot on the wedding. Two of my ...It really depends a lot on the wedding. Two of my friends got married here in Korea, a Korean woman and a British guy. They had a traditional wedding at the Korea House. The wedding expenses only came to about 8,000,000 won. The guy obviously didn't have a lot of guests giving him money since he doesn't have any family here and had been out of the country for a while, so didn't really have many friends to attend the wedding either. The woman made out with about 20,000,000 won. So, after all the little expenses like hanbok rentals and hotels for parents visiting and things, there was still about 10,000,000 won left over. In the end, that's not a whole lot, but imagine if he had been Korean... he would have made a lot more money since he would have had family, friends, co-workers of parents etc etc that get invited to these things. Oh, and since they paid for the wedding themselves, of course they kept 100% of the cash. Of course, this is just anecdotal. But, seriously, some people seriously rake in the cash at these weddings.... depending on how much they spend on the wedding, there should be some money left over at the end... even if the parents keep it all...조안나https://www.blogger.com/profile/18436544214416169575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-11416166720055835962012-04-03T00:10:31.116-04:002012-04-03T00:10:31.116-04:00When I go to a wedding I tend to put more bills in...When I go to a wedding I tend to put more bills into the envelope if I know that it's the bride and groom paying for the wedding rather than their parents. I'm not sure if this is common among my Korean friends here as well because I'm not really comfortable asking.Erikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03782545291020072036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-85798411351416424472012-04-03T00:04:40.982-04:002012-04-03T00:04:40.982-04:00What I heard was, "the person who pays for th...What I heard was, "the person who pays for the wedding venue, keeps the cash" .... and often the cash is just enough to cover the venue, and not a lot more.Roboseyohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06308196436612993379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36405856.post-6694951156730287952012-04-02T22:39:02.140-04:002012-04-02T22:39:02.140-04:00The second to last paragraph also applies to funer...The second to last paragraph also applies to funerals as well. During one family funeral I attended, I saw my uncle and cousin carefully track the exact amount each person gave so they would know at minimum how much they had to give if they were to later attend a wedding or funeral of that family. To give any less would be both an embarrassment to the family and a slight against the giver.SJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05282781923548522764noreply@blogger.com